Soul grief

The following is a thought train from the other day. It is not written from any specific science or research and is purely my point of view.

It is said that grief is love without a place to go. It follows that when we don’t love ourselves we are grieving. Specifically, our soul is grieving. Our soul is love and is sharing that with us in this present moment and we are either not accepting it or not returning it. We are disconnected from that love and so it does not have “a place to go”. This can manifest in human life as feeling that something that is missing or broken and not knowing how to find or fix it. It’s no different than when a loved one passes away and we feel the loss of their presence. The love is still within us but where does it go now? 

Just as human grief takes many forms, so does soul grief. Prolonged sadness, anger, addiction, or shutting off/down are a few of these. The pain of carrying love that was once shared may cause a need to deny extending love for fear of loss. It may also cause a need to seek an alternative that may feel like love, such as a food addiction where we seek out a feeling of “fullness” or comfort from certain or any foods.  For example, if I really enjoy the taste of chocolate, then maybe eating or overeating chocolate will bring a level of enjoyment that feels close to love (or feels like a suitable short term substitute).

There are many reasons why we may lose love for ourselves. Sometimes this happens due to trauma or any of a large variety of circumstances that cause of to disconnect. In any case, we have lost a sense of our self.  A sense of acceptance and love, unconditional love, for who we are.  Not for what we look like or how we act.  But rather for our very essence – our spirit. Our soul.  We have somehow lost the connection and our soul feels that deeply.  That’s where the grief originates because the soul is love and yearns to reflect love and have love reflected back to it. It sees only our divinity, our perfection, and views our humanness with compassion. It does not see us as broken or lacking in any way.

So, how do we reconnect with our soul? Great question and one I have pondered for many decades. Maybe awareness of that disconnect is a start? Maybe doing small things every day that are loving to yourself – even if you’re not feeling it at first? Presencing? Grounding? Energetic healing work? I think yes to all of these and that there are surely more ways that come in their own good time.

If I can be of service to you in your journey back to connection, please reach out to me at lisa@appleblossomunlimited.com  For more information visit http://www.appleblossomunlimited.com